my partners 6yr old son is getting naughtier and is very cheeky and i dont want our 2 yr old copying him?

ive been with my partner for 4yrs now, we have a son 2yr old son.my partner as a son from a previous relationship who 6.we have him for the day every sunday. when i first met my partner, his son as always been very awkard and spoilt by family (what he wanted he got).his behaviour as got worse, and my son of 2 see's it and hears him and i don't want him thinking what he does is right.where do i start, well when we pick him up sometimes it takes and hour for my partner to get him in car. he runs round the street, shouting and carrying on. or when he gets in he'l open door and run off. this is when he does'nt want to go or do something(like carboot). then he jumps on our furniture, runs round room and torments 2yr old. calls us a dick head, back chats us and repeats what we say. his awkard with is food. unless its what he wants to do he will throw a tantrum,paddy and be very rude.he's got no respect for elders/manners. my partner is v laid back and just gets on with it but i carnt cope

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1. I would bring your 2 yr old to another relative for the day when the 6 yr old visits until he learns to behave better.
2. Kids are in for a life time of bad influence. All you can do is teach them the best you can, cross your fingers and hope for the best
3. you need to learn english. you knew what the child was like when you decided to have a baby now deal with it.
4. I'm going threw the same thing. My husband has a 5 yr old, well he will be 6 this month, but anyways he will throw tantrums like no other! He has be violent to other kids. I was babysitting a 2yr old autistic child and he would play hard with him, there was 2 cases where the little boy had to go to the ER one time included getting 7 staples to the back of his head, he use to drag the little boy around, pull on him. The only think that you can do is start taking things away from him that he loves while he is in your house. We take our sons TV, V-smile, toys, so on. Until his behavior has been better. I do know sometimes with the other partners child you are afraid to disapline for the fact his isn't "your" child. Good luck.
5. There really isn't much you can do unless your husband sets some rules for his child. He probably isn't a disciplinarian, especially since he only sees his child once a week.
6. My sister had a step son a lot like this & she let him know right off the bat that she was not going to put up with it in her house. You need to lay sown the rules when he comes over & stick to them no matter how hard it is. Find out what he hates the most & make that his punishment if he doesn't listen & obey the rules. For the potty mouth take a bar of dove soap & wash his mouth out a few times. Her step son was a little H*ll'en on wheels every but her house after he learned that she was not kiding about the rules, but it will take both you & your husband to uphold the rules.
7. Don't blame the child for the way he was raised. OBVIOUSLY this child has seen none or very little discipline from either of his parents. Where you start is by insisting your partner do his job as a parent and discipline his child, and that doesn't mean hitting the child...your partner needs to learn how to tell his child "No". Until this child is disciplined he is going to continue to behave the way he does.
8. tell him often how much you both love him. tell him how important and special he is. tell him he is fun to play with and tell him he has the qualities you want him to have, eg before putting him in the car say `your such a good boy getting in the car` give him a big hug and say `Im so proud of you`